Whether you are a Mom to 1 or to many little ones, know this:
You don’t have to be defeated by a messy house, fussy kids, or an occasionally grumpy hubby. (*Smile*)
You set the tone of your home everyday! If today was flat, tomorrow you can hit the note dead on! In Titus chapter 2, we are called to be “keepers at home”; “to love their [our] husbands”; “to love their [our] children”. We have been given a high calling. And that high calling has sent me questioning….. where is the instruction manual for this program?!
We understand that the answer to every question lies in God’s Holy word. He is there to guide us and lead us through every stage of our lives. But what about the specific details? Some wifely and mothering elements are timeless. Some have changed with advances over the years.
One thing is for sure, though. Every woman that crosses the sacred portals from single to married and from womanhood to motherhood must find her way over the rocky, winding and beautiful terrain of life. What works well for some may be a flop for others, but we can learn from everyone around us. Watch closely the women in your life. Learn from their gains and losses. (We all have them.) If something feels like it doesn’t fit in with your families needs than, You as the Mama, have the privilege to make the necessary changes. Let’s learn from one another! Let’s encourage one another! Let’s support one another!
I have compiled 15 of my most favorite ways to Manage my household! You might be surprised by a few. You might be a little less enthused by some. But please remember, You as the “keeper of your own home” make the final decisions on what is good for Your home and Your family! I pray these are a blessing and a source of encouragement to you!
Top 15 ways to Manage Many…
1. Make Your bed Everyday!
This simple task is so elementary, yet it is one of the very first things I try to do everyday. There is something pleasant and rewarding about having a nicely made bed. That, and if the rest of the day turns out to be a flop, at the very least my bed still looks like a Throne of Comfort where today’s troubles dissipate and tomorrow’s adventures are born!
2. Schedule & Use a Timer
Please hear me out! I have not always been a big cheerleader on this particular subject. In fact, I’m still trying to tailor this whole “schedule” thing so that it fits my family just right. In doing so, I have found that when I operate on a schedule (even if its a watered down version) the whole family reaps the benefits. Here is an example to get your creative juices flowing:
Also, a timer is essential & can be a lot of fun! The cubs have been taught that if a particular task is not completed before the timer sounds then the necessary consequences will follow. There is something about knowing that those #s are counting down that trigger an inward motivation to beat the “Beep”. This works for adults also (well, for me anyways *smile*). As you race against the timer, you will find you don’t have time to get distracted or make excuses as to why you can’t finish right now.
A word of truth: If you are not staying on task, neither will your little ones.
You can test my theory by challenging yourself and your kiddos to a “Beat the Beep” challenge. Decide on a simple task (like making your bed!) and set the timer for 2 minutes. Try it out in short time burst, and then gradually extend your time so that you can accomplish more time consuming tasks like deep cleaning your fridge.
Side note: don’t beat yourself up if you are not a Pro-Timer and Schedule Queen. Interruptions are many & close together around my house so if I lose a timer race on a particular task I will either hit “reset” and try to finish up or move on to a completely different task.
3. Take Breaks to Refocus
Mom Burnout is a real-life experience that, I think would be safe to say, ALL Moms go through at some point. Sometimes it sneaks up on us slowly and other times it strikes like a Mac truck. Regardless of how Mom Burnout shows up, we can as Mamas, choose to not stay in that mode. An easy way to beat the burnout blues is to simply TAKE A BREAK!
Now, I’m not ruling out a full-fledged vacation, but honestly if I was on the edge of Burnout- packing suitcases and gear for 7 people would send me right off of that edge, Lol!
Sometimes its the small, intermediate breaks that help keep me sane and Smiling!
When the baby is crying; the 2 year old wants some juice; the 4 year old is coloring more on the table than at the table; the 6 year old spills the juice while trying to help the 2 year old; the 8 year old runs up to you with a tooth in their hand and a bloody mouth. Not to mention, the pot on the stove is boiling over; the signal on the dryer just sounded; the dog is spotted from out the window running across the yard with the kids’ slip-n-slide; a needy friend is Bomb texting your phone for counsel; Hubby calls and says he’ll be some early today; and some sweet little stranger would like for you to give them $15 to support some charity you’ve never even heard of.
Whoa! Stop! Let’s take a (quick) Break!
- Take an opportunity to sing a song with your kids or turn up the radio and silly dance til everyone’s laughing!
- Read a chapter in your kid’s favorite book!
- Have a 2 minute Quiet Time. Set a timer, get everyone (even yourself) seated all together on the floor or wherever you like and just chill for a couple of minutes.
If time allows, on days when things seem hopelessly crazy or the kids seem more bored than usual, take a mini road trip. Drive around your town. If you live in the city, drive out to the country. Enjoy the scenery. Take a road you’ve never been down- allow yourself a set distance of 5 or 10 miles and then turn back.
Plan a trip to a local park. It’s generally free and all you need are snacks and some bottles of H2O.
And the list goes on….take a break with your kids! Work on a puzzle, play with playdough, take a walk.
There are 2 rules I try to follow when taking breaks…
#1. Positive Simplicity-
a break is meant to be an enjoyable time out for everyone. A pleasant time to regroup. Don’t make it a task in itself or a negative aspect for your little ones. (Sometimes kids need to regroup also)
#2. Don’t be too Liberal-
Break time should not take up more time than your productivity time.
Find a balance between productivity and break time to help avoid Mom Burnout. You might even find that some days you don’t even need a break time or your schedule of activities may not allow for it. Rain check for another day!
I hope these first set of ideas have encouraged you as you daily rise up to the challenge of being a Keeper of Your Home!
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